Victors and not Victims.

 

Do you know or have you ever known individuals who walk around in life having a victim mentality?  Well, I have. These individuals usually view themselves as a victim in most situations that happen in their life. You seldom can help them because they want to remain in

 

Your initial reaction is to listen to their story to be able to offer encouragement and to provide a listening ear. If not careful, you will be pulled in.  What you intended was to be a Compassionate Listener but you then discover that you are dealing with an individual who has a victim mentality.  These individuals begin to frequently come to you complaining about everything and everybody. They continue to say that nobody knows what I'm dealing with and nobody has been through what I've been dealt with. Even when you try to encourage them not to focus on what has happened, they persist to continue to talk in a victim mode. I Encourage you to take note of the flags that goes off in your spirit and to understand when it is time for you to cut it off.  

 

You believe that helping them and showing them you are a friend that care will help only to find out that they are not ready to move ahead into tomorrow or into the future. They continue to complain about how they are disadvantage and are misunderstood by everyone. Still you continue to preserve as a good Christian and/or friend giving them countless hours of your time, energy, coaching, encouragement and much long-suffering waiting for their turn-around only to find that it doesn’t come.

You have to be aware of this type of personality and don’t let it continue.  If you allow it to continue it not only hurts them but also it will hurt you in the end. 

 

Continue to be caring and loving but you must use wisdom as to how you can help this individual so you will not be pulled into the negativity and that spirit.   Be guided by the Holy Spirit of how to minister to that individual. 

 

When an individual possesses a victim mentality, they usually view themselves in most situations as the person to whom injustice has been done to. They frequently feel like individuals are out to hurt them and/or treat them badly. Their constant struggles begin to become depressing and sad. If you talk with them, they are so negative about everything. They constantly claim what they don't deserve, or they are talking about how bad life is to them.

 

These individuals usually make such comments like: 

1. I don't know why people don't like me

2. They are always treating me wrong  

3. Nothing ever goes right for me

4. The devil is always fighting me,

5. People are always talking about me

6. No one wants to hire me, etc, etc, etc.

 

Whew just writing this makes me tired.

 

Don't get me wrong, I am not discounting the fact that these situations occur. Notice, that I mentioned the word constantly allowing this to be your story without desiring to change the story. 

 

These situations may, do and/or will happen. There are individuals who do, do such things, but you are in control of your own life.  Stop being passive and taking a victim role and take on your role as Victor.  When the victim mentality becomes part of a Christians’ every day, life story, then you are not operating in the authority and the power that God has given you; you have become a victim.

 

I have never read, yet, in the bible, where the Lord said that will be victims. The scripture, in Romans 8:35-36, talks about the things that come against us to separate us from the love of God, but verse 37 says this: Nay in ALL these things I am MORE than a conqueror through him that loved us. I like it the way the Amplified version states this verse. Amid all these things we are more than conquerors and gain a surpassing VICTORY through him who loved us.

 

The kingdom of God suffer violence but the violent (You) take it by force. Stop putting up with all the attacks and harassments of the enemy. Stake claim to all the promises that are given you, by Jesus himself, in his last will and testament (The Biblr/Word). For it has been paid for with blood. 

 

YOUR CHALLENGE:

 

1) Confess

I'm not going to be a victim anymore. Devil you will not bully me. The Lord says that you are under my feet. I put on my spiritual armor and fight the good fight of faith. 

2) Search the scriptures

Find promises about who you are in Christ. In doing so you will find that your attitude and confession will begin to change.

3) Walk it out

Walk it out by taking charge of your life and changing how you respond to attacks and negativity.

 

You are a Victor so start acting and speaking like one starting NOW!

 

PS: Send an email letting us know the promises you have come up with and are confessing.

 

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Written by: Pastor Betty Evans

 

 

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